Prioritizing Your Priorities

Hey love,

I’m so happy you chose to open today’s newsletter because I want to talk to you about something really powerful that has completely transformed my life.

The kind of transformation that happens at a cellular level – the true, lasting change where you can just never go back to the way something was before.

I know you know what I’m talking about, .

So let’s pop in my time machine and travel back a few years when I was building my business but sacrificing my real priorities in the process.

I was the type of person who had about 10 priorities at a time – which I now know meant I actually had none…

So I found myself saying yes to practically every opportunity…

Having a marathon of calls + completely booked (which had me busy but not productive)…

Telling myself the story that “I’ll get to that next week, just pass it to me” or “Let’s push that out to next month - surely I’ll have the capacity to deal with it then” – which I knew was complete bs…

And putting my health, relationships + self-care behind the mountain of requests that were constantly being thrown at me.

My god, even writing it makes me anxious. 😰 

You know when you’re so in it that you can’t see how bad something really is?!

Well, that was me – burning the candle at both ends and putting everyone else’s priorities in front of my own, in the hopes that I wouldn’t let anyone down.

And if I’m being totally real with you, even deeper than that was my hope to be needed and accepted by those around me. So I’d find ways to make myself SO important to the business that way I could feel important.

Can anyone relate?

Once I became a mama in 2022 everything completely changed for me. I navigated about a year of postpartum anxiety and depression. It was really challenging…

During that time I felt like I didn’t know who I was – my identity was shifting so rapidly that I could barely see myself in the mirror… but now looking back, I know I was actually discovering who I have truly always been + my truest identity.

I now look back and have such compassion for myself because let me tell you, that motherhood initiation is no freaking joke. 🤍 

I share this because after becoming a mama I made SO many changes to the way I run my business and life – those lasting, cellular changes I mentioned earlier…

For the first time, I started to prioritize my priorities. This looked like:

Saying no to any invitation or opportunity that didn’t feel fully aligned…

Removing myself from almost every weekly meeting…

Creating time blocks in my schedule where I was available to my team…

Deleting Slack, email, and all work-related notifications from my phone…

Releasing the need to be liked or needed by the business (just to feed an old story that wasn’t even true)…

And most importantly, putting my time with my daughter above everything else.

I started prioritizing my priorities – quiet, slow mornings with my family, space to read a book + savor my raw milk latte, walk in nature listening to a podcast that inspires me, showing up for my team on the things I loved + truly sitting in my CEO/Visionary seat…

Everything started to change in such positive ways and I finally understood the assignment – consciously + fiercely protect what truly matters to me.

Cellular change, . There is no going back to the old way.

Even recently when I was invited by my really good friend Chris Harder to speak at his private mastermind, I told him I’d come but would be available only for a very specific chunk of time – I’d fly in around 8pm and out the next day right after my talk, all so I could be home for bedtime both nights with my daughter.

☝️ Because being home for bedtime is my priority over speaking, making money, building my business, etc. It’s that precious time that is what’s most important to me now in this season of life.

So, I want you to start auditing your priorities and what’s pulling at your attention, energy, mindshare, and time… because I can guarantee there are areas right now where you are putting other people’s priorities ahead of your own and focusing on things that don’t actually matter.

You get to take back control of your time and make a conscious decision on what matters most to you.

Trust me , even if it feels scary it’s worth it. 🥰 

💡 Takeaways From Our Latest Podcast Episodes

Speaking of priorities – showing up every week to record the most high-value podcast episodes is one of my biggest priorities this year! I just love having the time and space to go really deep into so many different topics like sales, audience growth, biohacking, motherhood, wellness routines, and more. So, if you haven’t yet subscribed to the podcast, please do so you can get notified when new episodes drop!

Last week we shared two brand new episodes:

The first was with Dr. Casey Means on the common causes of cancer, depression + infertility, the Ozempic era, and how trauma impacts your health. – if health is one of your priorities, do yourself a big favor and go listen to this episode right now. We get really deep into things like metabolic dysfunction, blood sugar, mitochondrial function, weight, and so much more.

It’s quickly becoming one of our most downloaded episodes to date, so go have a listen and you’ll see why.

I also released a mini-episode on transactional relationships and why I’m a hard no to them at this season in my life. This is the perfect example of prioritizing other people’s priorities instead of your own. If there’s a relationship that pulls energy from you, doesn’t feel reciprocal, feels like an obligation versus a joy, or is straight-up toxic, it’s time to release it.

I dive into so much in this episode about how I started getting rid of these relationships from my business + life, why I moved out of Los Angeles, and more on this topic… plus it’s the perfect continuation of what I shared at the start of this email. So, go have a listen, and then send me a dm to share what you’re taking away. I really would love to hear from you on what resonated.